All the calls I’ve been getting from various political campaigns recently remind me of the golden age of telemarketing. Before the do not call list, before everybody had a cell phone, those calls were almost as inevitable as death and taxes. They were a nuisance, but I have to admit I did get one call that literally changed my life.
Those were very dark times in our marriage. My husband had lied to me, and I struggled for years to deal with it. The lie was about events that occurred before I knew him. In fact,these events happened before he even began walking with God. But I could not forgive him. I had no peace, and made sure he didn’t either.
One afternoon while I was making supper, the phone rang. It was a telemarketer, asking to speak with my husband. I was tipped off by the way the caller butchered his name. I was quite pleased that, instead of rudely hanging up, I could honestly say, “I’m sorry, there’s no one here by that name”.
“There’s no one here by that name”.
That was it. In that moment, God gave me everything I needed to forgive Erik and move on with my life. I had been listening to a “sales pitch” of lies about my husband. Over and over. But the truth was that person didn’t exist anymore. Erik was a new creation. He had put that old identity aside. After that, every time those accusations against him started to play in my head, I could say, “There’s no one here by that name”. And hang up.
So often, I want to be seen as a new creation, but I continue to accuse other people based on their old identity. Is there someone in your life whose transformation you need to acknowledge? A debt you need to forgive? An accusing voice that you need to “hang up”on?